Sex should be fun, but it can also be complicated. Welcome to Sexual Resolution , a biweekly column by sex therapist Vanessa Marin to answer your most confidential questions and help you achieve a healthy, joyful sex life. In this edition, she answers a reader who wants to have anal sex but whose partner has a big penis. She's nervous about the potential for pain, but Vanessa has some helpful tips. Have your own question? Ask it here. We tried it once, but we were not prepared. His penis is big, and I'm afraid it will hurt a lot, but I really want to do it.
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Takeaway: Pain is the major reason people don't do more butt stuff. Fortunately, it's often avoidable. What is the first thing you think about when someone mentions anal sex? Is it untold pleasure? Is it sensuous closeness? Is it discovering unknown intimacy? Could it even be the best orgasms you can have? Probably not.
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Of all the sex acts out there you can try, anal sex comes with some of the most vicious rumors. I don't just mean the rumor that everyone said Stephanie from high school was doing it, or the weird, creeping thought that all your friends are secretly doing it behind your back pun intended. I mean the rumor that it's always painful, but if you want to try it, you just sort of have to put up with it and dive into butt stuff, head- or I guess ass- first. And then you just deal with all the insane injuries that happen later. Some good news though. Just like it's probably not true that Stephanie was having it with Todd in sixth grade or whatever, it's also not true that anal sex has to hurt or be dangerous, at all. In fact, like all other sex things, it shouldn't hurt, so long as you're properly prepared. Or, more accurately, it shouldn't hurt. Kimberly McBride , assistant professor of public health at the University of Toledo, recently told Cosmopolitan. McBride compared first-time anal to first-time vaginal sex.